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[quote=Anonymous]I cannot imagine how anticipating these things would offer much protection from them outside of awareness of their potential future existence. Which you already have.

More helpful are the potential red flags that people, with hindsight, look back and see. For example, I now realize that when I was a teenager, I saw traits in my future husband long before he was to be my husband that I now recognize as problems. But during our early twenties these problems appeared to go away when I got to know hime better. Now after 20 years of marriage I see that, uh oh, he had issues that he just buried and never dealt with. Surprise!

None of the problems you mention are issues for us, but we have made up for it in the things that were lurking "under the hood" that neither I nor he knew about. Go figure.

I applaud your proactive thoughts, but I would encourage you to find creative ways to explore who you both truly are rather than trying to avoid hypothetical, however typical "cookie cutter" problems. They could indeed end up being your problems too, but not necessarily.

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