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[quote=Anonymous]We had a family friend of many years who knew my mother from when my mother was a child.  Her family threw her a big celebration for her 100th birthday and at the celebration, her one son got up and began his speech saying that despite being 68 years old, the father of 3 and the grandfather of (I think it was 7) that his mother still called him when it rained or snowed and asked if he had a warm coat and to chide him to wear a scarf and gloves.  Sadly she passed away about a year after the event and he wishes that she was still around to treat him like a child.

More to the point, one of the issues may be that you just ignore what they say or don't address their concerns.  While they know logically that you are adults, they don't know for sure what you've done, so they continue to give their parental advice.  I've found with my parents that giving them slightly more substantial answers helped to avoid some of these repititions:

Don't forget to get all of your tax documents and file your taxes.
--Thanks Dad, but our accountant reminds us what we need.
(Next year)  Don't forget that you need to file your taxes and get all of your documents.
--Remember we hired an accountant, Dad?  I told you that.  She takes care of all of that.
Do you need money for bowls and cups for the baby?
--Not a problem, Dad.  We got some at the baby shower. 
--We took care of that last week, Dad, so we're all covered, thanks.

I found that with more details, it only took 3-4 times for each bit of advice to settle down, whereas if I didn't provide details, ignored them, etc, that the advice tended to continue indefinitely.  [/quote]

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