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[quote=Anonymous]Although all of their children are well over 30, living on their own, 1 married, my parents cannot stop treating us as if we're little kids who always need their help or need to be reminded to do everything including tie our shoes. Even my husband has noticed this. For example, if it's tax season, they take it upon themselves to send us emails reminding us that we need to get our taxes done and make sure we've collected all of our paperwork and rolled over any IRAs that are due. Um, of course my husband and I know we need to handle our finances-- heck, we even have an accountant. Then, when we moved to a new house, we got a lecture about how we have to make sure we're moving into a safe neighborhood because now that we have a baby, we need to consider these things more seriously.

At times, my husband found their behavior insulting as he knows to look after things like his finances and family (his own parents don't do this, at all). The one thing that we are starting to find insulting is their constant offer of money, as if we're kids who can't afford to buy our own items or things for our baby, i.e. "you know DC will need his own bowls and spoons, yes?"  Aside from ignoring them, is there really any good way to handle them? The last thing I want to deal with is when our kids are older, having them witness my parents trying to infantilize us with their demands, lectures and offers of money.  Granted they were like this when we were actual children, but it's unsettling that it's continued into our adulthoods as well. It's as if they can't just sit back and let go and let us make our own choices and mistakes if need be. [/quote]

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