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[quote=Anonymous]Now I'm tearing up, because I can relate to the lapsed faith, and my little brother was the kid with a tumor 30 years ago.

It's fine to cry at home, or with friends outside the situation (aka a friend who doesn't know the family). It's terrifying when we realize how fragile life is and it's ok to need support as long as you don't take any support that would otherwise go to this family.

Great idea to offer to bring meals.  Fundraisers may be helpful as well, pediatric specialists are amazing but also incredibly expensive. To the extent you can keep in touch longer term, do so.  Alot of people are there at diagnosis and then disappear.

Tell your daughter that her friend is sick but that her mom and dad are working with doctors who are going to do their very best to help her get better. Because that's the truth at a level she can understand.  If she asks why, it's ok to say "I don't know".  Even at the height of my faith there was no one who could explain WHY my brother got sick.  And help your daughter stay in touch. She can draw pictures to send the little girl while she is in the hospital or too sick for visitors. And when/if the parents say it's ok, have her visit her friend. Maybe with some other kids, too. There was one little boy from my brother's 2nd grade class who stayed in touch, and he would bring other friends to our house and invite my brother to things (some that he wasn't up for).  It meant the world to him then, and still means the world to me now. If your daughter can be that person, that's an amazing character lesson.

Sorry this is so long.

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