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[quote=Anonymous]Well. Firstly, I say, talk to your rabbi/priest/dude in a robe about your lapsed faith. They are totally there for you for this kind of thing, and can probably even pray for the kid with the tumor.

Secondly, stop crying. No need to raise the stress level in what already sounds like a stressful house. Plus do you even know it's a malignant tumor? You didn't say that - maybe it's benign. Honestly, if you don't know that yet, I wouldn't tell her anything about a tumor. If you know it's malignant I'd tell her that her friend has a tumor in her head, and it's like a rock that's making her sick, and the doctors are going to try a bunch of stuff to try to make her better, and it may be a long process. And just like needles hurt but save you from bigger sicknesses, some of the things the doctors may do may not feel so great. Then promptly encourage her to do something proactive like make a pretty picture or card for her friend, or bake her some cookies or something.

Thirdly, part of what you're feeling that's bringing you down is the helplessness. You want to do something and are stuck. So figure out what you're prepared to do/give (a card, bringing over a meal, sending a coloring book, whatever) and dig in.

Fourthly, I was raised Jewish but am not religious at all as an adult - so I don't have the faith you're talking about, but it causes me zero angst. My "faith" is more in karma and putting out in the world what makes me feel good (be the good you want to see in the world) and what I want to get back, etc. You can have faith in the life and the power of the world without the religious component. I do believe in the power of prayer - many studies have been done that prove it works. [/quote]

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