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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oooo,, there was a very interesting post about this a couple of months ago.  A mother with two daughters commented how one daughter is much better looking than the other, and the better looking one is constantly getting preferential treatment when out and about.  It was heartbreaking but insightful  Maybe that mother will see your post and be able to offer some guidance.[/quote]

I wonder if you're talking about my post.  I had asked for help because one twin is much more outgoing than the other (mine are identical and essentially look the same), and was getting tons of coos and smiles and constantly told what a smiley baby she was, while the other just didn't get as much attention (although she is quite a smiley baby, too).  Now the girls are 15 months, and we're still encountering many of the same issues, both with our childcare and out and about.  I do think there is a bit of a feedback loop---the twin that is constantly told how smiley she is always smiles in return while the other one just does her own thing.  I've wavered on how best to handle it.  I find that when I'm out alone with the less outgoing twin, I make a big effort to make eye contact with anyone who looks like they might smile at a baby, so that she can feel some extra glow of attention.  But there's also something to be said for letting the kids' experiences be different.  But I'm happy the OP has raised the issue, because we're always looking for better ways to handle our situation, also.  [/quote]

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