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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I are separting and one of the things that is troubling me is how to maintain a good relationship with my in-laws, who I love dearly and are wonderful grandparents, aunts and uncles to my children. They don't know yet my husband is about to move out, and I figure it's his right to let them know. I know they will be very sad. My thought is to reach out to all of them (his parents and siblings) in individual phone calls after he breaks the news. I want to tell them that I appreciate all they have done to support us through the tough times that we've had lately and that I'm sorry it's come to this. I want them to know that I hope to maintain a good relationship with my husband as a co-parent, and I also want to make sure they are always promient in our children's lives and that they are always welcome in our home. But I'm having some trouble envisioning exactly how that works. They live out of state. Do I invite them to come for visits, especially for special occassions, holidays and birthday parties, like they come for now? Do I continue to send them pictures, school updates and cute little stories of things the kids said over e-mail and text, like I do now? Or does that put them in an awkward position? Do I still send cards and gifts for their birthdays? I suppose that would be ok, especially if they are "from" my children. I know they are going to fully support their son and that we can't have the same relationship that we do now. But I'd like it to be the best it can be under the circumstances. For anyone who has been successful at this, I'd appreciate advice about how to start off on the right foot in this hard new chapter and how you manage the relationship.[/quote]

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