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[quote=Anonymous]My dad was in the military and my mom mostly SAH. I never felt like I had one parent, but was definitely closer to my mom. Dad made an effort to be home when he was around, taking a good amount of leave, etc. We did a lot of traveling as a family and lived overseas for most of my childhood.
 
She didn't always have the support she needed, I remember some rough times when dad was deployed, but she also had some very close friends too. My dad is in a pretty specialized sector, so we saw some of the same families over and over again through the years as we moved around. Honestly, mom has had a harder time now that dad is retired (but still working), she doesn't really know how to build a social circle on her own.

Dad was mostly gone when we were little. By the time I hit HS, he was mostly home, with short trips, not 6-9mo deployments like when I was in elementary. We grew up on base too though, so our friends were going through the same thing, it was just the norm for us. Mom was very hands-on, there was no sense that she was 'checked out' at all, even if she was working.

My parents' marriage hit a really hard spot once he retired, Mom was def used to doing things on her own and the transition to having a partner around was hard. Now that we're all out of the house, they've gotten to know each other again and while things are still rocky, we're no longer waiting for the divorce announcement at any second.

But both my parents grew up as military kids too. So there was no hometown or anything to miss, the "dad always gone, move every 2-3yrs, build your own extended family" was what their childhood was like. I think that helped, as both mom and dad could relate to what we were dealing with. [/quote]

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