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[quote=Anonymous]Yep. Money would have made being a single parent much, much, much easier. Having money to hire help makes some of the logistical problems go away too, since things like cleaning can be outsourced. And it relieves some of the angst of making decisions on your own, bc now your options are better. It sucks to make compromises on things like quality childcare for your kid because it's either "not-great daycare and safe apartment" or "great daycare and scary neighborhood". Having more money opens doors and relieves stress.

As far as decisions and the burden of sole responsibility go, 9:53 nailed it. Co-parenting with someone who is all in is great. Co-parenting with an asshole is hell. Everything is a fight.

I was a single parent from the time DS was 8mo til he was 2.5yo. Then a sole parent from 2.5yo to 4.5yo. Sole parenting with no break wasn't easy, but it was easier (and healthier for DS and I) than co-parenting with XH. Things were consistent, there were no power struggles, no undermining, no uncertainty or things being changed at the last minute. When XH took off, my expectations changed. I knew what had to be done and I knew that I was the one to do it. There was no point in getting frustrated or disappointed or upset, things just had to get done. When he was around, there was this sense that I was picking up his slack/covering for him and it was hard to not get angry when he didn't show up. When he left, that expectation of help/partnering/back-up disappeared and I was able to move on and take care of business.

Now I'm re-partnered with a wonderful man and it is amazing. There are things that are harder now that there's another opinion and other needs to be weighed, but for the most part, it's been great. It's wonderful to know that I'm not alone any more and someone other than me for DS to count on.[/quote]

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