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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am from the West coast. I have no family or friends in NOVA. The only reason I'm here is this is where my wife is from. I've been here for almost 2 years and there are days where I feel like it's make or break time.

In the time I've been here I have only heard bad news about those back at home. My best friend was diagnosed with Cancer. There have been 3 deaths. One cousin went missing then was found dead 3 months later. Several "stable" relationships are now over or well on their way. The same best friend with cancer has now gone off the deep end since really what DOES it matter?!

Then a few weeks ago I found out one of my cousins who is just a few years older than me was diagnosed with terminal cancer and had 6 months left. My cousin and I are far from close, but we grew up together and my heart hurt for him, his 3 baby girls, and his parents. As a parent myself, I cannot imagine knowing I'm going to be lose my child.

Yesterday I got a phone call from my mom. She was being admitted to the hospital for a blood clot.

Today my mom sent me a message saying that cousin's cancer has moved into his brain. He is now down to weeks.

I'm devastated. I feel like I need to be "home" with my family as they go through these things. However, as I parent I can't uproot my child from his school or take him from his other parent. I can't leave my job...

I feel so helpless. I miss them all so much and what if something goes terribly wrong and I never see my mom again
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This is difficult since moving would require your wife to be separated from her family.  Is there a way to visit more often?

Also, what have you done to make freidns and establish roots here?  If you always thought you would go back out west you may be sabatoging yourself here and not being open to new relationships.  Do you and your wife belong to a faith community?  Do you have children? If so what ages?  What are your interests?  Ther are many clubs here to investigate and become involved.  It takes work and you have to put yourself out there and it won't happen overnight.  Good Luck :)
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