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[quote=Anonymous]So this is a couple of years old, but I figured I might as well ask anyway:

About 2 years ago, I was checking my email on my dad's phone (with his permission) and saw that he had gone to a few websites for escorts located in areas where he went on business (very specific metro areas like Durham, NC). I was totally shaken and he could tell something was wrong. I didn't have the guts to ask him about it in person, so I sent him an email. He called me up and told me that one of his friends had suggested that they all go to a massage place on a business trip and he was trying to convince that person that hte massage place wasn't appropriate. He told me he'd never do anything to hurt my mom or my sister and me. I didn't totally believe his story, but dropped it.

About a year later, I was checking my email on his phone again (with his permission) and found a similar website for escorts located in a place he had just been for business. I didn't ask him about it.

I have no other evidence that he might be doing anything sketchy. My mom told me that he was taking out large amounts of cash one time when he was on a trip to London (several hundred dollars at a time), but didn't say anything else. It was sort of out of the blue. She also told me that they had gone to marriage counseling a couple of times, but then decided to work out their issues on their own. She wouldn't tell me what the issues were.

Should I tell my mom what I found? I know it's been a long time. My dad is an absolutely wonderful father and, by every indication I can see, a wonderful husband. My parents are in their late 50s and are planning their retirement and I feel like I might ruin everything they have by telling my mom, who would be crushed.

What should I do? 
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