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[quote=Anonymous]Immigrant here.   I can sympathize with both of you.  It seems like you haven't had an easy life, either here or at home.  From your post, it seems like your husband is probably young ("he misses the fun of our country" "he feels we are alone".)  *Every* Immigrant misses home to some extent and feels more lonely here.  That's normal.  But one needs to see the long term goals.  That's what needs to be defined, as individuals and, above all, as a family.  If you are poor in a poor country, chances are your kids will also be poor.  Are your poor / below middle class in your country?  Then I can see why you think things for your kids might be better here.  But the operative word is "might".  Not everyone makes it here.  The US is not for everyone.  There is no guarantee that your kids will be substantially better off here. What helps is to have both parents on the same page who are willing to sacrifice for the kids (and forget about the "fun" in the home country).  The sickly parents is an important issue, but shouldn't drive your decision as a family unit.

If he can convince himself that it's worth to give it a shot, then he should stay.  But if he will feel that you are forcing him to stay, then things won't work out.  One option would be to negotiate a give yourself a year or two, with the kids here, to see if he is happy and if you are happy.  (You might be surprised how many immigrants don't like the idea of raising kids here).  Then you can decide.

Good luck.[/quote]

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