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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If the situation was reversed and you were the one who helped subsidize another family memebr you wanted to see- how would you feel?[/quote]

That's a good question. I don't know how I would feel because I've never been in the situation of being the flush one, but I'm a pretty frugal person (partly by disposition and partly out of necessity) and I imagine that I would secretly feel resentful and think they were deadbeats and that they should have made better choices in life. Which is all true, we should have, and I don't want anyone else to suffer for our mistakes, even if they can afford it and even if they offer. That's why I hate this situation so much -- I know they must look askance at us.  [/quote]

I honestly think you are projecting. At least in my family, I know that we would all do whatever we could to see the others if one family couldn't afford as much. You love seeing them, they love seeing you and their grandkids - I really don't see the issue here. You will catch up to seeing them more often when you can.

Is there anything leading you to believe they are judging you, looking askance, etc? If they're blabbing and complaining openly about your financial situation, that's one thing, but from your posts it certainly doesn't seem as though that is the case.[/quote]

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