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[quote=Anonymous]I sympathize with you, OP, I really do. It sounds like this is not an isolated incident and should not be judged as such. If this was an isolated incident, I would say that you're being overly sensitive and should probably accept his apology at face value (even if it did seem half-hearted to you) and forget about it. But, it's clear that this isn't the first time your DH has left you feeling invalidated in your emotions.

I understand why you went, despite the fact that you describe yourself as an introvert. Anyone, introvert or not, would probably feel comfortable going to a bar with their husband and a mutual friend to catch up over a few drinks. It was the fact that your friend brought a group of people that caught you off guard and made you feel uncomfortable. I'm assuming DH knows that you're an introvert and that you might experience some social anxiety in situations such as this. If I was in that situation, I would hope that my DH would at least offer a few words of comfort based on the circumstances and knowing my personality.

It's clear that you're not really upset about this particular incident, but the fact that it seems to be a pattern. If you do decide to further the conversation with your DH, maybe you could be very direct with him and say something like "I really appreciated the fact that I was invited. I really am sorry I left early, but you know that I get uncomfortable in situations like that. You're a social guy, so you might not understand where I'm coming from and I can see how you might think I'm over-reacting, but I really am very introverted and I don't like the feelings of anxiety I get in large crowds and social situations. It would really make me feel much better if you could offer a few words of encouragement when you sense that I'm getting nervous or not having a good time."

Hope everything works out for you![/quote]

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