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[quote=Anonymous]I was out with the kids this morning at an appointment.  DH calls but doesn't leave a message on my cell.  In the meantime, we are texting about something else.

We get home.  He stomps out of thehouse while saying that I said I would call so he had been waiting for me for an hour and no longer wanted to go to the store together as a family and that he would go by himself.

I sent him a text saying Next time please text me.  I thought you were calling about the problem we were texting about so I didn't call you back because we resolved that.

So he e-mails me, saying you said you would call, I guess I should not have relied on that.

I e-mailed back that as far as I recall I said I would text.

He e-mailed back Nope.

So I e-mailed:

I guess I don't understand why we have to be limited to one form of communication.  As this exchange points out, we have texting e-mails, etc.  You did not leave a voicemail for me, either.  So I am not sure why, when I did not return the call, you would not have called again, left a vm, texted or e-mailed rather than fuming.  I think my assumption that you were calling about the thing we texted about was reasonable in the absence of a voicemail.

We can keep fighting about it or just move on and try to learn to communicate in ways that make us connect.  Obviously we missed each other on this one, but I don't think anybody meant anything bad by it.

He has not replied.

Part of my just wants to yell, "Oh grow up!"  But I am trying hard to be respectful and not engage or let him drag me down into his snit.  He has anger issues and I am trying to learn to set boundaries while still taking the high road and not engaging.  I may be doing a sucky job at it for all I know, but I'm reading a bunch of books and trying.

Any words of advice or encouragement?  Any secrets for keeping your zen in this situation?[/quote]

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