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[quote=Anonymous]I am far from harsh. In high school she had no drive or really cared about socializing accept with a few friends. She liked cheer so I do not make a lot but I put her in allstars cheer for four years which was very expensive. Her grades have never been great. Each year in talking to the teacher she just does not put the effort not because she does not know.

I have even pushed to get her a 504 plan. We talk often about life being hard but she has no motivation. I send her in the summer with one of her older favorite cousin and grandmother but they put her back on a plane and said she will not be disrespectful and they do not have to put up with it. She has not been given everything. She cares about how she looks, makeup, boyfriend and that is it. When her father passed she was 18 the lawyer told me that the money that was left to her had to go to her due to age. She has went through it all.

She had one job she did not want to do it because she wanted to cheer, another job she got she worked a week then went on vacation for three when she came back they fired her. She has not worked, She had 15 credits she got an A in freshman seminar the rest she failed. She is on the cheer team at college and I told her she needs a job I cannot afford it. Many of her friends do not fool with her I do not know why she says it is them.

I and my father have offered to pay for a car for her if she could maintain her grades for the first year. As far as college she had no choice I pushed her to take her SAT and apply for school. I ran her back and forth to get in and contacted someone I know to get her in. I have called about financial aid she could care less. I understand college is very hard, however, partying, not going to class, having fun cheering while I work two jobs and often times go without paying bills is to me a little not grateful. I pay for the phone and try to keep it on since she is not here.

I do not mind her hanging with friends for the winter break but I do expect her to do something around the house like wash a dish, clean up after yourself or spend time with your little sister who thinks the world of her and she ignores her. Not much but something I believe at 19 she be automatic if I have been preaching for years.

I do not want to be negative but actually I am a tired parent. So for the ones judging sometimes parents need to vent and are at wits end. For the ones with helpful tips and comments. Thx. If she has not gotten it by now paying another three years for a child that may have the same behavior is not fair. When and how do you draw the line.

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