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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just had my third kid in early December. Things are generally going well and the older kids (4.5 and 2.5) are adjusting OK.

My husband and I have not been intimate in quite a while. I lose all interest in sex while pregnant and obviously haven't been cleared by my ob yet. The trouble is that, since the baby arrived, I don't even want to be touched by my husband. Kisses and playful pats make me recoil and I know it hurts his feelings. It's not a problem with him or even an indication of what life will be like long term. [b] It feels more like I am overstimulated and touched all day by the nursing baby and older kids that more touching, especially touch that pleads for more intimacy and touching, feels like too much. [/b]

Do others of you feel this way? How did you explain it to your husband? Any help is appreciated.

And, before the thread goes there, we do not ordinaryly have a sexless marriage and I would never let that happen  over the long-term. [/quote]

OP I have had to say this to my DH about 1000 times, and not just when the babies were that small. They aren't experiencing the overwhelming contact that goes along with small kids. The nursing, the cuddling, the constant "I just want to snuggle with you, mom." It's lovely and warm but it becomes stifiling. After long days with the kids I sometimes still have to tell him that "tonight I just want to be alone with my book and my space on the bed."

Plus, you shouldn't have sex until 6 weeks PP, as I recall. You don't want to end up like Tori Spelling. [/quote]

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