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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Love thy safety. You will need to insist that he finds a school - I'd say 2 to give him choices - that he likes (and visits!) which are admission/financial safeties. This is the first thing to nail down. Reaches are always more fun to ruminate about -resist this. Work from the bottom up.[/quote]

Agree completely. Start with a list of schools that you can afford and that he is likely to be admitted to. Tell him he MUST apply to some schools on the list. He can choose or you will do it for him. If merit aid is important to you, visiting before applying is wise.

And I agree with PP that it is not too early. You want to visit campuses while school is in session and you want to make visits before EA/ED deadlines next fall. It's possible to do some visits in September/October 2014 if necessary, but it can be needlessly stressful to wait that long.[/quote]

"You want to visit..."  This is precisely the problem.  It's not about the parent - it's about the DC.  Chances are they will NOT be that interested early in the process i.e. before spring of junior year.  Sure go look at a few schools, but these trips are only informational at best.  Your child will probably not be that interested yet.  Believe me, after seeing about two schools they all start to look and sound the same.

The kid also needs their SAT scores to have an idea of what schools are realistic.  Some kids take them in January of junior year or March or June.  Timing here is key.  Take them too early and you risk scoring low.  Take them too late and you won't know where you stand.

Bottom line.  Resist the urge to run the show.  We made this mistake with DC1. DC1 ended up transferring.  We are letting DC2 lead and it is going much better.  DC2 is picked and is applying to 7 - all 7 visited Spring break or later.  Applied to 0 of the five schools we visited earlier.[/quote]

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