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I'm so sorry, OP. Family can be one's biggest torment. My mother is like this, thankfully I have no siblings to tease me. Maybe you have no funds for this right now, but I strongly suggest discussing this with a therapist, or at least reading some books about self-esteem in families who continually criticize.

The long-term goal for you is to process these jabs differently so that they do not hurt you, allowing you to interact constructively with your family.

In the short-term however, limit contact. Allow yourself to skip this dinner and invite Dad on your own. If they ask why, no need for diplomacy: just say that years of bullying about your appearance have made family gatherings really obnoxious for you. Feel free to ignore voice mails, texts and emails as well.
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Thank you DCUM. I considered skipping the dinner, but boyfriends family is on the West Coast and he wanted to meet my parents.  I was embarassed to tell him about how they are and so now it's happening. I am going to have to man up and tell him that there are going to be some jokes at my expense. My ex was always uncomfortable with my mom's conduct and would always shut her down.  Not sure how this guy is going to handle it. I do need to start seeing a therapist to resolve some of these issues.  Unless I resolve them now I don't see how I will continue a relationship with my mom and sisters once my dad passes. [/quote]

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