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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]single with a child.  long relationship just ended.  trying to get over it.  really miss the companionship.  trying to date...been on match, okcupid.  met 8 men so far.  nothing clicked yet.  trying to be more open minded and agreed to go on a second date with someone i met two weeks ago. thought it was ok but had a hard time really seeing it...still do so expectation not too high.

i know it's sort of a numbers game....but will be hard to keep this up if i meet 20 men and still nothing clicks.  it's not unpleasant to meet for coffee/drink exactly...but it's sort of exhausting and just kind of disappointing.  a few times i really liked the men on email.  different in person, which is why i always push to meet fairly quickly.  also hard to carve out time with a child.

how long does this take people?  i know if i meet someone i really like it will be worth it...but feeling rather discouraged now.  probably will take a break for the holidays...but also depressing to head into the holidays alone![/quote]

But you're not alone. You have a child. How would your life be different if you started focusing more on what you have and on what's going right? [/quote]

Not OP, but you clearly aren't a single woman in her 40s with a child. If you are counting on your child to fulfill all your emotional needs and needs for companionship, you are plainly doing it wrong.  There is nothing wrong with wanting to have someone in your life just for you.  And it's very hard. [/quote]

I didn't say she should count on her child to fulfill all her emotional and companionship needs, PP. I simply said she's not alone; she has a child. Presumably she has friends and family and colleagues as well. If she has a boyfriend, will that be "just for her"? Or will her child figure into that equation?

I agree that there's nothing wrong with wanting a partner. But there is also nothing wrong with loving the life you have and focusing on children, friends, work, and engaging pursuits that feed your spirit. You make it sound as though a life without a partner is empty and unfulfilled, and that doesn't have to be true.[/quote]

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