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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Somehow I find this thread intolerant and superficial. I'm sure that when life was "perfect" you were as judgmental of everyone else as your DH seems to be of you now. I'm sure you never even considered a man who didn't meet your list of expectations. You don't talk of shared values, interests or dreams. Even your description of DH has a "Me, me, me" tone about it in which you describe what you required before you even considered a guy to be worthy of you.

Now that you've lost your status job, you sound like you've lost your self-respect. Honestly, do you think that you are anything beyond a CV? Because obviously that's what you wanted out of a husband: someone who was "good on paper" was enough. There's nothing to describe his soul or character in your entire post.[/quote]

I'm not the OP but this described me at one time.  I can understand why you think it applies to OP.

I don't mean to be unkind, OP.  I'm really sorry for your pain.  I do think there is an element of truth to the PP.  I was lucky enough to have the opportunity to re-evaluate my life and choices in my 20s.  I came to the realization that I'd chosen my career path for the wrong reasons (at least they were wrong for me).  If you were fired for not billing enough/bringing in clients, that kind of law is not your strength or passion.  You may have been conditioned by your upbringing/education to think it was 'the career' to aspire to but that's group think.  I'm much happier in a career that is less prestigious, less high power than what I aspired for in my 20s.  I also would never have considered dating my DH back then.  He wouldn't have met my criteria for what I thought my boyfriend/husband should be.  I know some people I knew back then wondered what happened to me.  I could have done so much more, done better in a DH.  But the life I have is the one that suits me best.  As difficult as this time is for you and as much as it sucks, it's an opportunity for you to take a long hard look at your life and choices.  You'll pick yourself back up and get on the path you were supposed to go - and you'll be much happier for it.  You can't see it now but you will. [/quote]

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