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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, 
  I am not the type to send back gifts, but I am wondering if I am being petty by not sending a gift back.  I am not ready to get over the messages until she apologizes.[/quote]

OP, use this as an ice-breaker. Call and thank her for the gifts or have the kids call and thank her for the gifts since she sent them to them. Then use it as an opportunity to talk to your sister about getting help and setting up clear and firm boundaries regarding what behaviour you will tolerate. "Larla, I love you and want the best for you. You are clearly deep into your addiction and can no longer manage your behaviour and relationships. I want you to seek help so that you can live a long, and healthy life with healthy relationships. What happened in August will not be tolerated. I love you, but I will not be abused or let my family be abused." 
If you are expecting an apology now or later, you are fooling yourself. She is an addict, what do you expect from an addict, non-addictive behaviour. You are setting yourself up to be hurt and disappointed. I suggest you check out Al-Anon for some coping strategies. Best to you and yours -- I hope she gets help.[/quote]

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