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[quote=Anonymous]OP, we're "old" too. I'm 40 and my husband is in his 50's. We looked into both IVF and adopting. I want to say that I'm not sure where you got the info about no 6-11 year olds available but that's definitely not true. We went through the training and homestudy for adoption from foster care - an amazingly wonderful way of becoming a parent - and yes, it's not as easy to find kids 2-6ish, mostly because if you think about it logistically it's rare that a parent's rights are terminated by then.

Say a parent has a kid, that baby might be abused/neglected or what have you, but without any interaction with others (school etc) there's rarely any knowledge of it. Usually by the time the kids get to school, then that's where the issues are identified. Kids show up in the same clothes, malnourished, miss school etc and the teacher gets involved. So that means that basically all kids are on their own from birth to roughly 5 unless someone reports the issue.

Then there's a lot of education and trying to get the parents to get their act together, and that may or may not happen. There are plenty of younger kids and if you are open to siblings, you may get a little one who is 3 or 4 and another 7 or 10 for example. Check adoptuskids.org  After you read thru some of those profiles, you'll know if it's the right path for you. I am willing to bet one of those little faces speaks to you.

We ultimately had to stop our process because IVF worked and I got pregnant. I wasn't willing to suspend IVF to go thru adoption and they really wanted that because they want to preserve birth order for the kids which I understand.  So we're now unable to adopt, but I often check the profiles of the kids I had my eye on and am happy to see they've all been adopted. I hope their lives are fantastic.

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