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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you really agree to have an exchange student without discussing it with the family first. I find that odd.

That being said we have had exchange students for 1 month + and my introverted son hates it but he needs to get over it. The world does not revolve around him. He does not have to spend every minute with the person but he can't be rude either.

So you should appologize for not discussing it with her first and then tell her to get over it.[/quote]

This. You should have consulted first (but she also should not have final say or veto power). I would tell her that I was wrong not to discuss it before committing, since it does involve the whole household, BUT now there is a student her own age, like her, who is depending on your family's hospitality for just one week, most of which will be spent away from your house. Rather than using the harsher "get over yourself" I'd tell her it's now a done deal because it will be difficult to find another host family (which is probably entirely true) and would try to engage her in preparing for the student when the time comes.

Also, remind her that she was able to do an exchange because of another family's kindness, and it's right to pay back that kindness and give someone else the same opportunity she was given. Did she have some bad experience on her exchange? Is there something you don't know about it, maybe friction with her host family that she hasn't ever discussed? I would wonder about that if her response is unusually virulent.

Also, she may indeed feel overwhelmed at school and think she's going to have to entertain this "guest" at a time when she has a lot of work due; can you and the program director for the school let her know that she's not expected to be a super-hostess the entire week or provide fun all the time.

I was an exhchange student for two months  and it  was thanks to the [/quote]

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