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[quote=Anonymous]My SIL is exactly this way, and it does drive me bananas. Although in our case it's mostly been clothes, shoes, home decor, and just generally copying my style as closely as possible for years. At some stage early on I got immature about it and started lying about where I go things ("oh this? I don't remember" ... "it was a gift!" .... "I've had it forever, not sure where to find one now?" ... "can you believe I found it at a thrift store?") - I was just so exhausted of her asking where I got something and immediately going out to buy the exact same thing for herself.  But over time I've come to feel less annoyed and a bit more "bless her heart" about it. How sad not to know for herself what she likes and be her own person. It can't feel good, and I try to empathize with that.

It is irritating, though, and I disagree with those saying it's flattering - SWF behavior is creepy and (in a small way) it makes me feel a little violated. It sort of feels threatening, too, like she's trying to take me away from me. If that makes any sense. But as corny as it sounds, I realized that she can't take me away from me, she can't be me, and it's just sad that she tries. [/quote]

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