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[quote=Anonymous]I just went through a busy/rough couple of months, starting in August.  Sold a house, bought a house, moved, changed daycare for a one year old, company was put up for sale, longtime boss left, etc.  The kind of weeks where your life is commute, deal with work, commute, take care of random crap, try to enjoy your kid, shove in some dinner, fall into bed at 9pm.

Emerged from the depths of the rough patch in October, only to realize my sister is super angry and not speaking to me.  We hadn’t been in touch much during that time, but I honestly don’t have any recollection of ignoring an email or call from her.  Since then she will not return my bi-weekly voicemails, rejected two weekend travel invitations, and sends super pissy terse emails if she has to respond to something.

According to my mother, she feels that I am very inconsiderate and that I only talk to her when I feel like it.

She is a very smart, Harvard trained doctor.  No kids, her husband is independently wealthy and does not work, and she herself works 2-3 days a week.  Basically, she has all the time and money in the world, and as the breadwinner of our household (husband is a social worker, I am in IT) I am feeling incredibly short on both these days.

I tried leaving her several voicemails this week, really hoping to catch her, and then directly engaged the situation with a brief, hey you ok, I can’t seem to get you on the phone email.  She wrote back “I'm fine.  Are you ok?  We haven't spoken in months and then all of a sudden you've left me several messages.  Something going on?”

Is there anything I can do to defuse this situation?  I have just kept up the friendly emails and voicemails, not asking what the problem is.  But she’ll be at Christmas, so this all is coming to a head soon.  I really don’t want to engage - she gets so scorched-earth angry, is never wrong, and clearly feels that being furious at me is justified.  I don’t want to fight her, I don’t want to prove her wrong - I just want her to not be angry.  But that does not seem to be happening.
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