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[quote=Anonymous]Stand your ground. Have them hold off their visits until at least 3 weeks after your due date. The reason is they have to book flights and you want to ensure your little one has been born and is home from the hospital. You’ll need at least a week to get your routine down, which will make the grands visit much less stressful. Since their flight is so long, I would give them 2 options. You will host for 3 days in your house, but if they want a longer visit, they need to stay in a hotel and rent a car. When they’re here, have takeout menus available. Say that you and DH will not be cooking. If they go for the longer visit, limit how much time per day they are at the house. I always insist in having only one set of grands at a time so each gets the quality time they deserve. They get that and comply. I give everyone acceptable times to visit and it’s up to them to schedule so it does not conflict with the others. Whomever books first gets the dates they want.

With my first, my MIL wanted to come right away. I told her that babies don't come on time and I'd hate for her visit to be when we're waiting for DS to show up - her visit also required advanced planning (work schedule, flights). So I held her off for a month. Best idea ever! She was not happy at the time but she got over it. She was not helpful and was annoyed she didn't get enough time with DS - at a month he spent most of his time napping and nursing, so we hid in the bedrooms. Now with the 2nd coming, she's on board with coming 2+ months after his due date so she'll get the visit she imagined. 
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