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[quote=Anonymous]It's hard to tell, but from what you've written, it sounds like your mother uses her money to punish - or at least feel superior to - you.

I think you'd be best served to let it go.  Entirely and all of it.  It's her money, her choice, and I think it's hard to tell what she is really doing, if she's just saying these things to needle you.  I am certain it is hurtful that your mother buys your children things and not you, but again, I really think you need to come to peace with it.

You can't change your mom.  You can only change your reaction.  When she brings up money, change the subject.  When she talks about her will, tell her mom, it's your money and your choice.

Maybe throw in there, mom, I come to see you and spend time with you because I love you, not your money.  Let's not be unpleasant.  And change the subject.  Simply do not engage with her on the topic, and certainly not on the topic of your children's wants or needs.

Maybe your mom wants to hear that you see her no matter how much money she has.

Your mother may live another 20 years - and or her health may cause her to go through all her savings, leaving nothing.  Isn't this a silly thing to fret over now?

Let it go, and free yourself of this burden.

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