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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I have been together for about ten years. He has had a very low sex drive since pretty much the beginning of our relationship, although it seems to get lower by the year. We have ups and downs but there has generally been a very substantial difference between the amount of sex I want (every day really) and what he wants (probably every 2-3 weeks).  We recently made an agreement that if he would initiate sex once per week, I would not bother him about it and we would stop fighting. This was my idea.

It worked well for a while and now I am getting frustrated again. I am by all accounts a physically attractive person and have never had any trouble meeting/attracting men. I know that that should not matter, but I have to say that I am feeling so resentful. I think about why I am staying in this relationships and when the breaking point will come. Although part of this is physical, it's mostly emotional. I am so envious of women who feel like their husband is really attracted to them. I don't know if I would even want sex as much as I currently do if I just felt satisfied that he is really attracted to me, thinks I'm beautiful, so on. have a decidedly un romantic relationship and he never compliments me ever, despite me telling him how important it is to me that he do so. I don't think he even realizes how good he has it- I am attractive, bring in a high income despite also taking care of most of the childcare, work hard to keep our home clean etc. I just feel so extremely undervalued and I feel like that's what the sex thing represents for me. I am certainly not perfect and I know there are things about me that really frustrate him (I am often running late for example).

We got nowhere in therapy although the therapist told me that I would end up cheating or leaving him if things did not change. Like I said, it's really not about the physical so an affair is unappealing (plus I'm not into cheating). I am also reluctant to leave and break up our family over this. But I can't help feel like I deserve so much more and that I am wasting away my life. I am young enough now where I think I could remarry without too much trouble and of course that will be harder with every passing year.
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