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[quote=Anonymous]My three kids are CONSTANTLY fighting over toys. My parents are coming to stay with us for a week and I was telling my mom what we do for discipline the other day, and she said if they were fighting over a toy then the toy should be taken away and neither of them should have it, which I know is what a lot of people advise. I don't tend to use this technique and was trying to think carefully about why it doesn't seem to be the answer for us. Usually, it seems like what happens at our house is that one child is playing with a toy and then another child decides that he wants to play with it before the first child is finished and starts an argument or tries to forcibly take the toy. In that instance, it doesn't seem fair to the child who had the toy first to take it away when it is the second child who is in the wrong. Often the first child has just picked up the toy or has been playing with it less than 5 minutes when the second decides he MUST HAVE IT RIGHT NOW. If I took the toy away from both, then I would have two upset children instead of one. I usually end up policing them taking turns instead, which is a pain in the butt for me, but at least seems more fair.

Of course it doesn't even need to be a toy. It could be an old cardboard box or a piece of lint off the floor or a rock from the front yard. Anyway, thoughts on fighting over physical objects? How do you handle this issue in your house? FWIW my kids are two years apart (6, 4, 2).
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