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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If they want to connect so much, why don't they make the effort to come your way--to a hotel of course.[/quote]

They did (on one of those old people bus tours), but I was still afraid of them at that point, didn't want them to know about my life (info. is power to them), it was very difficult for me to get off work at that time b/c of shift work, etc.  They would come if I wanted them to - it would be the highlight of their year and they would tell all the people in their small town about it and use it as proof that they are successful parents.  I think the fact that I don't come to anything is the one crack in what they have otherwise portrayed as a successful family (which is totally a facade).

As for my siblings -- there are many -- I have neutral/positive relationships with some, and others I haven't seen in 25 yrs.  Distance.  Different lives.  Some have cut their children off from the GPs for awhile as punishment for GPs' manipulative behavior with the grandkids.  One sister is manic/depressive and received the brunt of the hostilities/abuse growing up.  The oldest brother also received a lot. Neither is married so they go to holiday events b/c they have nothing else.  The only other ones with kids are brothers (who on the whole, did not receive a lot of abuse -- they were valued for helping on the farm).  Their ability to interact with the parents is a little easier, although they and their wives still have to deal with the emotional manipulation.

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