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[quote=Anonymous]My 21 y/o DD has been going home to her dad's every Sunday night for the evening since the school year started (she works 50 hr weeks and goes to school, Monday is her day off).  She likes getting to see her dad, who she's always been very close with, and the cat she's had since she was 10.  She also often has Dr's appts scheduled then, as her specialists are located there.

Recently there has been some conflict with her dad's GF.  The GF of about 2 years is offended that my DD does not want to spend Sunday afternoons with her---if the GF comes over to the house, my DD will often retreat into her room to give her dad and the GF privacy.  DD is always polite to the GF, but has no interest in hanging out or becoming friends with her.  The GF thinks my DD 'hates' her, and it has caused a lot of conflict in her relationship with my ex.  My ex has expressed his desire for my DD and his GF to spend time together/hang out.  He says that if DD respected his relationship, she would befriend his GF.  I think that as long as DD is polite and doesn't make the GF uncomfortable, she shouldn't have to hang out/spend time with the GF--especially because she is only in town for a few hours a week.  Yesterday, my ex asked if my DD would watch TV with him and his GF.  My DD said she didn't mind the GF coming over, but would prefer to study in her room while the GF was over.  My ex got very mad and accused my DD of being ungrateful for all he has done for her, and told her how disappointed he is in her.

Does my DD have an obligation to befriend her dad's GF?  She is very upset--feels like her dad is choosing his GF's feelings over hers, and doesn't feel like she's very welcome there anymore.  Does anyone have any suggestions? [/quote]

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