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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not unsympathetic but the title of your thread is overly dramatic and incorrect.  It's not that people don't care about the baby, it's YOU that don't feel cared for.  I understand it's difficult not to have the family or ILs you want, grieve it and move on.  By your own admission, your ILs are overwhelmed by your kids and in their family it's normal not to ask/provide help.  That doesn't make it wrong, it's just different from your family of origin.  I'm sure they do love you.  I'm sure your family loves you.  Doesn't mean they'll behave the way you want.

So, develop a plan on how you'll cope.  I had 3 kids in 3 years. DH and I have no family nearby capable of helping.  I had no choice but to reach out to friends and neighbors (BTW - I had 3 C-sections and only the last was planned).  My DH had very little leave and what he did have had to be used to cover the times he was late/left early to pick the kids up a daycare.  We were lucky his work allowed him to hold off on travel for a couple months until I healed enough to lift the kids, etc.  I understand you feel abandoned but that's because your expectations aren't being met.  That's on you to change.   [/quote]

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