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[quote=Anonymous]Dry drunk, OP. I know EXACTLY what you are going through.

I am hesitant to give concrete advice other than the following: you do not sound like you have a good relationship with your current therapist. Maybe you should consider getting a new therapist. It also sounds like you and your husband would benefit from going to counseling together.

That said, it really doesn't sound like your husband is on board with your plan. It sounds like the fact that it was YOUR plan is a large part of his anger and resentment. I know exactly what it's like to be in a relationship with an alcoholic who still believes that they are in control of their addiction, rather than the other way around. I have been through the "It's not okay with me, but I'm not your keeper" and the "reminding of the agreement" conversations. My experience has been that "the agreement" is only effective if both people are truly on board. It doesn't sound like your husband is. It sounds like he is angry and blaming you for his anger. As PP says, it's possible that you're meeting your husband for the first time and that he's not a person you'd like.

Right now, I personally am at the point where I am trying to take stock of how much anger and drama I can take before just giving up. It's a really terribly lonely place to be.[/quote]

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