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[quote=Anonymous] I finally had it with my narcissist parents and after a final blowout this October, I'm never speaking to them again. For the past few years, my parents have spent most of their time bad-mouthing me and my husband to my sisters, and treating us like garbage when we are forced to see each other in person. After a childhood filled with physical and emotional abuse, I'm done and a happy not to put my own children with these awful narcissists.

My husband was totally on board with this, but did mention that I have a hard time letting go of my parents.  I don't want to go into all the horrible things my parents have done to me (gotten me sued, ruined my wedding, hacked into my email account,  told my sister they would stop speaking to her if she spoke to me), but seriously I'm done.  The problem is I am about to have another child. My mother had agreed to come help me with the new baby, as did my sister. My dad is too horrible to have in the house, and he wont visit as he finds dc "boring".  Since the fight, I don't want my mother to come, and my sister won't come as she's chosen my parents over me (see above). I was upset over this as I wish my children would have two sets of grandparents and aunts, but obviously that isn't going to happen and they're better off not knowing them. Besides, my inlaws were supposedly going to come help.

Yesterday my mother in law told us that she was going to go to an art retreat when the new baby is due. My father in law is going on a business trip. Essentially they won't help. I know these were scheduled after they knew my due date.

I should mention that I will have to have a c section. Since my other kid is very young, I don't know how I will manage the stairs, double stroller, etc by myself. My husband has some leave (2-3 weeks? Less?) but afterwards I am afraid of how I will manage. My husband has decided that his parents are blameless for not visiting their grandchild, and I am at fault for not begging my parents to come. For me this feels like a huge betrayal as he knows the horrible emotional roller coaster my parents have put me through. I also think his parents are wrong for not wanting to visit their grandchild, especially since they promised me on more than one occasion that they would.

Just really sad. I'm sure I'll manage by myself again, but I feel so sad for the new baby too. [/quote]

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