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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had the same experience with my mom when she got old and am now experiencing it with my MIL.  I think it's kind of typical, but hard to deal with.  And, if my experience is in the normal range, it gets worse.  They start to lose their filters and it's not only unintentionally hurtful but also embarrassing.  [/quote]

OP here. Wow. I guess this is pretty typical.

Here's what I am noticing, my dad is more pleasant with me that he was in his Type A hey day, but he is more difficult with my mother. My mother is losing her filter with me faster than with others and she will say hurtful things. She also needs me for venting about my dad and sometimes I intervene to smooth over the communication between them. I think my mother just needs a release and I happen to be there more since we live somewhat close. Brother is ill and sister still struggles some with depression so she is more careful with them. She seems to keep it together for nieces, nephews, grandkids, etc with only the occasional loss of filter. She also can still be very nice to me, I just seem to be the one she lets lose with and usually I am able to just let it bounce off me or I make it into a joke. If I'm stressed and sleep deprived I have to be careful about dealing with them because it can bring me down and my sense of humor goes out the window.

To the person who asked, mom is 74 and dad is 81. Sometimes I think my dad is fading faster, but other times I am surprised by how addled my mother can be.[/quote]

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