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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: MIL is going to be pissed off.  I believe she had been bragging about this dinner to her family-less friends for weeks.

This is going to go down as the Thanksgiving that DIL got everyone sick, almost made SIL miscarry, and eventually destroyed.  That's just the way she is.  Well, I don't give a hoot.  As DH said, the only way to have as much control over a party you are looking forward to that much is to...THROW IT YOURSELF.  Which she never does.  I don't know why.  I mean, if you can't cook, you can cater.

I don't even know how I got roped into this.  I honestly have no recollection of the moment when we decided that we would host this year again.  I think, like in years past, MIL slyly planted the idea in my head.  I'm such a schmuck.  [/quote]

You didn't destroy Thanksgiving, some nasty little germs did.  Give yourself the gift of ordering some sides for Thanksgiving and roast your turkey on Thursday if you feel up to it...or later in the weekend.  Let things be low key.  It's ok.  I know it's hard to wrap your head around it when you are still feeling crappy, but it will really be ok.

Meanwhile, do some reflecting on how you feel about hosting family holidays.  Maybe set up schedule where you host every other year and the non hosting years you have a smaller celebration with your nuclear family.  You say that DH is tired of hosting...what's his ideal Thanksgiving?  See how you feel about this year's low key celebration and talk about your joint vision for the future...not the "MIL can't cook"/at least partially guilt-induced version happening now.

I hope you feel better soon, and I hope the rest of your family stays well.[/quote]

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