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[quote=Anonymous]My 16 years old son, Gabe who have been living with his father for last six years after unsuccessfully trying to have him coexisting with my husband and his kids and our new born baby. 
He was doing quite well for first four years, but then his father end up fall for a woman and that's when it all goes bad.

Before his father fell for a woman, Gabe and his father would do a lot of things together and his father was very attentive and involved in his life. Gabe seems to be quite happy and whenever he come to visit my family and me, he was able to handle the situation okay most of the time.

However one thing he never seems to get over is the fact that he really doesn't get along with most kids. He had only few friends in elementary school, then drift from one friend to other in middle school, then in high school he have pretty much none. 
Despite of having excellent social skill, being on wrestling and water polo team he just doesn't seems to care much for friends. Also as he get older, it get worse.
Now he only seems to have few older female friends and nothing else.
He has spent pretty much all of his free time by himself ever since his father start to go out with this woman. That's when he start to get really bad.

I just learned that he used to manipulate his father into giving him money or things in order to keep him off his back about this woman. 
This summer, the woman and her son and two severely disabled adopted children end up moving in with his father and Gabe. 
This was already bad enough for Gabe. However his father's girlfriend expect Gabe to be a better example and help with the kids. That's when thing got out of control. 
Gabe's father of course would start to pay Gabe a lot more in effort to get him to cooperate and Gabe just end up hating the kids even more. Also Gabe's father's girlfriend have went through Gabe's room to take a lot of things away from him because she think he shouldn't have it. She also took him out of boxing and forbid him from many actives. This doesn't fly well at all.

About two months ago, Gabe's father suddenly passed away. This left Gabe with everything and Gabe's father's friend who is a lawyer as a guardian of the inherit.
It has been a terrible time for everybody.
To make thing worse, Gabe have been becoming extremely manipulative and getting far worse about everything. At first he tricked us into believing that he want to live in the house with his father's girlfriend only to suddenly demand everything back from his father's girlfriend, force his father's girlfriend to give up his father's larger bedroom so he can move in.
He then went on to do numerous other things that upset everybody in the house.

Yesterday I stopped by to check on the situation. Gabe wasn't home at the time so his father's girlfriend answered the door and we end up talk a bit. She was extremely distressed. 
I learned that Gabe has gave her 30 days eviction notice few days ago and she have no idea where she and her children will go. When I called Gabe to ask him about this, his reply was basically "I'm done with dealing with this drama, I want her and her kids out of the house!" When I remind him of the deal we had, he replied with "Either you move in with me and we can live in here and my life will be back to what it used to be until I'm 18 or I can sell the house and seek emancipation!"
When I tried to tell him that what he's doing is wrong. He hung up.

I've tried to call him a few more times and he refused to answer.

I have never felt so lost. I just don't know what to do any more and am really afraid of what will happen.[/quote]

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