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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes and yes but it changes you and the dynamic forever. I am so sorry OP. It is so hard.. but it can get better.  Learning to let go and set boundaries is important. Hugs to you. [/quote]

Thank you.  It's a sibling in my case and he's robbed my parents blind to fuel his habit.  He steals anything that's not glued down - they had to change the locks recently - and drained their bank accounts through forgery.  It's been exhausting to deal with.  Nobody else in our family has these types of problems, so it's been hard to understand where it came from.  [/quote]

OP, this exact same thing happened in my family too. My brother has been drug free for a few years now (lots of rehab paid for by my parents after he stole from them and others time and time again). I'm still angry with him for what he put my parents through. They've forgiven him though. Sorry - it'd horrible what drug addiction will do to a family. Maybe try al-anon? My father used to go.[/quote]

Yes to all of this.  We have a strong thread of addiction running through the men in my family.  In my generation it's my brother, but it's also my father, an uncle, a cousin, etc...

It changes all the family dynamics, moves the center of gravity, triggers tremendous feelings of guilt/anger/sadness/etc...   Al-anon is a good resource.  There are also many excellent books on the subject- this is an extremely common problem.  You are not alone and there isn't an emotion you (or anyone in your family) is having that isn't normal and shared by tons of others.  It really helps to talk to other people, and it is also really important to learn how to establish boundaries that protect you and your immediate family.  It's very hard to maintain a healthy sense of self in the middle of this so try to do what is best for you.

Good luck.[/quote]

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