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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Someone who finds multiple ways to insult and bad mouth his ex on H's frost date with another woman has a lot of issues. How people speak of past relationships says a lot about them.[/quote]

How do speak kindly about an ex who had you falsely arrested for domestic violence and who keeps you from seeing your kids?[/quote]

You don't speak of the ex at all on the first date, other than to establish that you are divorced. Why in the world would you get into the gory details with someone you have literally just met?

My first husband was truly and utterly an asshole, but ultimately the only man I had that in-depth conversation with was the man who would become my second husband. There was just no reason to get into that level of detail on first dates.

And even though my ex was an asshole, I still played my part in the dissolution of the relationship with him. 't takes two to ruin a marriage. I was okay with slinging a little mud about him once I had the conversation (as I'm sure he did about me!) but in no version of the story is everything entirely his fault, and in no version of the story is everything he said a lie and everything I did totally the right choice and completely justified. Come to think of it, in any strained or failed relationship scenario - friendships, family, romance, marriage - I think it's cowardly for a person to say that everything that went wrong was the other person's responsibility. Rarely is life that black and white, and real instances of a spouse (or whatever) just going totally batshit psycho are rare.

Own your piece of it, and don't spill it to someone who is basically a stranger at that point.[/quote]

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