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[quote=Anonymous]By nature I'm a very private person. I have many friends, but I'm very careful about who I confide in. I feel like my friends know me and understand me, and pick up my cues about what's ok and not okay to discuss. As an adult, I feel entitled to my privacy (no Facebook or Twitter for me!). I do open up, but only carefully and after real trust has been built. So here's my question: a close relative just moved in nearby and, as she's new to town, I've been helping her settle in. She is a really nice, caring person and we've always gotten along. However, she seems to have developed boundary issues that are wrecking our relationship. She constantly asks me personal private questions about my husband my inlaws my friends my job my husbands job, things that I think most ppl would find nosy. Ice tried changing the topic, deflecting and being vague. The problem is also that the questions come from left field and I'm always caught off guard...eg nice weather! Making burgers for dinner. How much do you get paid an hour? Nothing is working, the questions keep coming and I'm feeling very resentful at the invasion of my privacy. I'm thinking of just telling her straight out that I'm not going to answer every question she asks me, but I'm afraid she will be seriously hurt and the repercussions will be far reaching. I'm also wondering if it's possible she's developed an impulsivity issue that shows itself by asking inappropriate questions. Any thoughts or advice?[/quote]

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