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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Cheat is used loosely here.

Let's compile a list of ways to cheat:
1. To have sex with someone else.
2. To have friendships with someone else spouse does not approve of.
3. To drink alcohol. (when spouse disapproves)
4. To eat bad foods (especially when you are overweight or diabetic)
5. To gamble
6. To smoke or do drugs.
7. To go shopping or to the salon (when spouse thinks you can't afford it or don't need it)
8. To exercise (when spouse thinks you should be working or doing something else)
9. To rest or sleep (when spouse thinks you are lazy and unproductive)
10. To watch porn (when spouse disapproves)
11. To watch TV or read (when spouse thinks it is excessive)

In other words, how many hours per day or week or month are you doing something that spouse disapproves of? Is this your fault for doing something you know you shouldn't do or is it spouse's fault for being too rigid?

Assuming 16 waking hours per day, in my case, spouse is happy when I work (8 hours) or spend time with family, friends, or exercise (4 hours), watch TV (1 hour) eating and bathroom time (2 hours). That leaves about 1 hour per day when I am doing something that spouse really dislikes. Sometimes I think she is being too rigid.

Congrats if you NEVER cheat. You must be very happy and lucky to be in such an open and honest relationship!

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this is a bad set of rules...I would rather define cheating to be breaking the Covenant of marriage.  Physical or emotional betrayal.  Abuse. Etc.  Watching the redskins game is not cheating, and not violating the covenant (though it may be abuse for me).  Nor is my daily coffee.  My diet?  If god did not want me to eat bacon, it would not taste so good.

With that said,
1) never, 
2) once in our marriage, and she was right.
3) N/A
4) my choice, not hers.  But every day.
5) N/A
6) N/A, and should be with drinking IMHO
7) Every day -- she does not think I should have my one vice, good coffee...we can afford the Latte's
8) N/A -- I don't drink, smoke, do illegal drugs or exercise (a sentence I have always wanted to write)
9) N/A -- spouse understands I need rest for medical reasons
10) rarely
11) every night -- sports for me.

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