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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Cheat is used loosely here.

Let's compile a list of ways to cheat:
1. To have sex with someone else.
2. To have friendships with someone else spouse does not approve of.
3. To drink alcohol. (when spouse disapproves)
4. To eat bad foods (especially when you are overweight or diabetic)
5. To gamble
6. To smoke or do drugs.
7. To go shopping or to the salon (when spouse thinks you can't afford it or don't need it)
8. To exercise (when spouse thinks you should be working or doing something else)
9. To rest or sleep (when spouse thinks you are lazy and unproductive)
10. To watch porn (when spouse disapproves)
11. To watch TV or read (when spouse thinks it is excessive)

In other words, how many hours per day or week or month are you doing something that spouse disapproves of? Is this your fault for doing something you know you shouldn't do or is it spouse's fault for being too rigid?

Assuming 16 waking hours per day, in my case, spouse is happy when I work (8 hours) or spend time with family, friends, or exercise (4 hours), watch TV (1 hour) eating and bathroom time (2 hours). That leaves about 1 hour per day when I am doing something that spouse really dislikes. Sometimes I think she is being too rigid.

Congrats if you NEVER cheat. You must be very happy and lucky to be in such an open and honest relationship!
 
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I'd just like to say that merely doing something a spouse disapproves of does not meet any normal's person of cheating. Our spouses don't have dominion over our lives. They are earned partners, not authority figures. Doing some of these activities may cause conflict, but that's as much about control issues as the behavior itself. The worst sin of all is trying to control your partner's behevior. That's worse than anything on this weird list (except maybe the betrayal of sleeping with someone else, which is something most of us promise to not do when we get married -- there's nothing in the wedding vows about regulating TV or porn).

So, are you actually serious with this post?[/quote]

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