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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if it is confirmed the fetus died, are you going to have it analyzed after the D&C to check if it was a genetic/chromosomal issue? I hope all is fine, but in case it is not, I highly suggest you have it analyzed. I went through the same thing during my first pregnancy and it did bring me some closure to know WHY it happened, instead of wondering....[/quote]

OP. sorry for your loss.  And I want to reiterate PP's advice.  I lost my first pregnancy (after years of trying and ART) last year, and my RE suggested the genetic testing.  We learned he had a trisomy that wasn't compatible with life...and that did make it a little easier on me.  Before that I was struggling with analyzing everything I did in case I had contributed in some way.  That said, my RE also gently told me that there's nothing I could have done to cause the loss.  As he put it, "If women could do things that caused miscarriages, there wouldn't be any abortion debate."

After a few more IVF cycles and a chemical pregnancy, I'm now 32 weeks along, expecting a baby girl early next year.  So it might not feel like it now, but there is light on the other side.

One book that helped me was "An Exact REplica of a Figment of my Imagination".  It's a memoir of a woman's loss that occurred later in her pregnancy, but it still resonated in many ways.  This is a really difficult time, and I totally understand feeling like no one can relate.  Your DH may be sad, but he doesn't have the connection to the baby that you do.  My DH mourned in his own way, but there was a part of him that just couldn't understand the emptiness.[/quote]

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