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[quote=Anonymous]When I was ages 7-9, we had a male relative stay with us while attending college. I thought he was the greatest guy ever and looked up to him. I was an extrovert in a family of introverts and having someone else who was outgoing, social and energetic to hang out with was awesome. I also loved that he paid attention to me, seemed to really enjoy my company. and spending time with me as I didn't really get that from my parents. Suddenly one day he moved out after living with us for about 3 years, he was just gone. I really didn't get any answers until I was about 18. I had heard from mutual friends where he was and told my parents I was going to get in touch with him to catch up. They got really mad and told me I was not to talk to him and that they had suspicions he had sexually abused me. I was absolutely shocked. Never, ever had anything happened that I know of.

I did get back in touch with him anyways (that was 25 years ago) and have stayed in touch ever since. He has gone on to have a family and I have never seen anything inappropriate or anything that gave me pause. I still have no instinct or memory of him ever doing anything sexual to me. He is at family functions and we see / hear about him often but basically I can't mention his name around my parents and it has become this weird awkward thing we don't talk about, although they have long given up warning me about him and being disappointed in me that I chose to stay in touch. It is also weird for me that they think I have been sexually abused when I haven't been.

I am not sure if I should just keep with the status quo or if I should say / do something. I really don't know though what I could say that would change their perspective. 
We will all be at a family wedding this weekend and I dread managing the dynamic of that!
Any thoughts?[/quote]

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