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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. At least in this person's instance she has told stories about our heritage that are invented, about family connections to various famous figures that are untrue. Just recently I looked into another story about the founding of a famous company a forebear was supposedly involved in - happened in a different state and under a completely different scenario than her version. She's making shit up. It sounded so plausible too. There was a lot of detail in her version like she had really looked into it.

No none of the stories involve me, or any current events. Though there are some kind of unbelievable tales about childhood, but nothing that smears any individual. It isn't about stirring.

I'd be willing to grant leeway if it was just versions of what grandpa thought about this or that, or where great-grandma acquired that figurine on the shelf.[/quote]

OP, for many folks this would just be annoying, or even kind of amusing stuff that can roll off your back. But you clearly care deeply about having the family history be accurate.

So...do it for yourself. If it matters to you this deeply what a great-great forebear truly did or did not do, then become a genealogist yourself, if that interests you. Do NOT do it just to spite this relative, though, or you are expending energy just to be spiteful; do it only if you really find you are interested in it, and not to "set the record straight." If you plan to do your own research just so you can come back at her tales with, "Well, I know the truth!" every time -- you'll just create a ton of family stress. And that would make you as much responsible for the drama as she is.

Do your own history if it's the history that matters to you. Ignore her if the real issue is that you are just pissed at her. You're investing a lot of energy and anger in a situation that, while annoying, does not really harm anyone now living or sully the reputations of those now dead. [/quote]

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