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[quote=Anonymous]I have been married to my H for 18 years.  Our last DD is ready to go off to college.  We are a Foreign Service family, which has its ups and downs.  I feel most of the downs are on me - unaccompanied assignments, assignments to s**tholes, etc.  In any case, we are negotiating about our next and potentially final assignment before H is eligible to retire.  DH is pushing to take one last s**hole assignment because the money is good - 25% post differential, 25% danger pay and 15% service need differential.  The last is a lump sum payment paid of H completes a full three year assignment at post.  H's argument is that the money is simply way too good to pass up.  At his salary level, this means his base salary of $130K plus the above differentials for a total annual gross of $195K.  The service need differential would be a lump sum $55,500 at the end of three years.  With last DD off to college, he argues this is a way for him to meet all her college expenses and not have to borrow a dime.  He will make her borrow a token amount just to have skin in the game.

However, due to the negatives I mention above, I am deathly opposed.  I am tired of all the moving around, putting up with crap in the Third World, etc.  I feel I deserve some relaxing time in some place like Paris or Geneva.  H is not opposed to this, but wants to put the more hardship position among his top three.  Not only for the money, but because he says the job is better than the others that are available.

I realize it is only three more years, and then we can start getting out.  I am just not sure I can handle it another three.  [/quote]

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