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[quote=Anonymous]OP, tell everyone that there won't be any visits for the first few days/week/whatever. You need to get your feet under you as new parents, and you will need to recover physically.  The first visits, when they do come, should be short (long weekend). Have MIL and your parents come at different times. Explain before they come that you're not going to be up for "hosting" ("we're sure you understand") and so meals will be very simple (assemble-your-own deli sandwiches, etc.) and everything is going to be on a "self-serve" basis. Let them take cabs to/from the airport or, better yet, rent a car at the airport.

When they are actually visiting, steel yourself to be BLUNT about what you need, and be ruthless about what you want to do.  You're tired?  Don't feel obliged to keep sitting and visiting with them; just get up, announce you're going to sleep, and go.  Time for the baby to eat? Just take the baby, don't get into a situation where you're having to persuade people to give the baby back. You are sick of them and want time alone?  Just say "excuse me, I'll see you later" and go not your bedroom and barricade the door.

Btw, if you're nursing and want privacy, lock the door. If it doesn't have a lock, barricade the door.  My nosy SIL deliberately walked in on me without knocking while I was pumping in my bedroom, despite the closed door, because she just wanted to see.  I was so pissed!

You and DH need to be on the same page and present a united front, and you need to put your nuclear family's needs above the feelings of any guests.  Once the baby gets older, these things will become easier and more relaxed. But for now you're entitled to do what you have to do. Let us know how it goes. 
Good luck with the baby's arrival![/quote]

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