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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - BTDT.  [b]My biggest piece of advice would be to get DH on board RIGHT NOW, 100%[/b].  After baby arrives you will be BUSY and it will be his job to play bouncer/social secretary.
We set a strict policy.  NOBODY IS WELCOME UNTIL WE CALL YOU.  We called our parents in the first day or so home, other friends/relatives after maybe a week.  Even then, guests had to leave before dinner (DH's idea).  That killed any notion of staying with us, and allowed us time to just learn to be a family, which is hard enough.
DH also was quite comfortable saying "Okay, thanks for visiting, here is your coat" and "Let's reschedule, today is turning out to be a not-so-good day for visiting."
I can guarantee that without DH's support and willingness to be the bad guy, I would have lost my mind.[/quote]

This.  We had our parents visit almost immediately after the baby was born, and they were awesome and helpful (made meals, bought groceries, etc.) but even then you have to be on the same page as your spouse regarding the visit--length, what to do if parents are making life more difficult, etc.  My husband could even tell when I wanted my baby back and would get her from whoever was holding her for me.  When you know in advance that your parents are going to make life harder, it's even more important.  And you will be tired and anxious and you will need your spouse to be willing and able to run interference and stand up for you and the baby.  [/quote]

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