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[quote=Anonymous]I am a FTM.  We are expecting in a few weeks.  We have no family in the area.  Both sets of grandparents live out of town (one is 2 hours by plane, the other lives in California).  FIL is not coming to visit baby, he says he will meet the baby when baby is older (probably high school knowing how often FIL visits).  DH's siblings are not planning to visit any time soon.

Anyhow, we have a large house with one guest room.  My parents would like to stay in guest room, and MIL would probably stay in a spare bedroom on an air mattress.  The problem is I don't want any of them staying with us after the baby is born.  They are not supportive, and I do not have a positive relationship with MIL.  They would expect to be hosted and treated like guests, with us cooking/cleaning/catering to their needs, and I will not be up for that a few days after birth.  Neither would rent a car, which would be a problem too, because we live way out and it would be too difficult to carpool to and from the hospital.  I mentioned staying at a hotel to my parents and they were highly insulted.  But I know that they will expect to be catered to and I won't have the energy, and then they will be upset because they won't be treated like guests.  I have not mentioned staying at a hotel to MIL but she would like be highly insulted as well, as she has never liked it when we stay at a hotel when we visit her (because I don't like staying with her).

How to handle this?  I am getting stressed already.  I was thinking 3 days at the most for the first meet the baby visit.  I don't want any family in town when the baby is born or a few days after.   Then if they want to come for a longer visit a few months later, that would be okay.[/quote]

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